Signs You’re Growing Apart
Wendy Brown was interviewed by Kristine Fellizar for the Bustle article: Signs You’re Growing Apart. Here’s the link.
Read moreWhy are so many people in love with Passionate Adventurers?
Many people who have read about someone with this attitude to love either wish they were Passionate Adventurers, or they set their sights on finding one and falling in love with him/her. Here is a summary of what it means to be someone who sees love as a Passionate Adventure: At first sight: I can be really mysterious; my potential lovers usually sense that there’s a tiny bit of me that can never be won. As a lover I feel: Mainly I have confidence that I’m on an amazing quest; with pride, dignity, humour and strength. My attitude to love is a passionate adventure: I have a mission; I need to believe in myself and be courageous as I go forward in life and love. Problems I have in a relationship are: I can be very offended if my lover doesn’t really know who I am. I find it intolerable…
Read moreSee if you think Gripping Dramatists are lovely people.
I do. It’s always hard for me to hear that they’re ever so slightly embarrassed to read about their attitude to love. Then again, they’re usually also relieved to hear that somebody finally understands their complexity. Here is a summary of what it means to be someone who sees love as a Gripping Drama: At first sight: I can be very emotionally engaging; I get deeply involved and I focus intensely on my love relationship and my lover. As a lover I feel: Mainly I have romantic and sexual tension; with sensitivity, intensity and volatility. I also experience some dark emotions. My attitude to love is a gripping drama: I desperately want love in my life. When I have it, I find it hard to believe that I do. If I start to believe it, my next thought is that it will be temporary. That puts me through terrible emotional…
Read moreThe Love Attitudes
In all likelihood, you haven’t naturally and spontaneously discovered your attitude to love. It’s pretty common to have an attitude but not be consciously aware of it. You might need something to draw your attention to it: You could suddenly realize that your lover is wearing you out with his/her doubts and fears that your love is fading. Your boyfriend/girlfriend may feel deeply loved when you really get his/her sarcastic sense of humor. These are clues about whether or not you and your partner are marching to a different drummer or to the same one when it comes to love. But this realization doesn’t provide you with enough insight to boost your love-life in a big way. Having your attitude to love defined: Will help you understand what love is for you. Love will become more than a mysterious feeling that can confuse you and trip you up. You will…
Read moreWhat is love anyway?
Well, it’s easy enough to know what love isn’t: Have you ever been on a date with somebody who is just head over heels in love with you? And your only thought is ‘Meh.’ Were you ever in a once happy love relationship and somehow or other you just lost that loving feeling? Then you found out what it feels like when you cross the invisible line in the sand that means you’re done. You feel a cold resistance, or an active refusal to be receptive to a loving connection. You just have a barrier. More than anything you feel as if you just want to turn away and you actually have a sense of relief when you do. So, what is love? Love is an emotional bond or closeness; it can be nice, warm and steady or powerful, magnetic and electrifying. It feels forever in the world like a…
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