Donald Trump is Time Magazine’s Person of the Year for 2016. In the article, Michael Scherer states: …tastemakers and intellectuals have dismissed him as a vulgarian and carnival barker, a showman with big flash and little substance. But what those critics never understood was their disdain gave him strength. You see, Trump has been accumulating passion over his lifetime. By my definition, passion is either a powerful, barely controllable feeling that can overtake a person at times, or a delicate, intuitive sense much like an artisan has for his/her craft. It is very clear that Trump has both. In other words, he’s a Red-hot Lover and one with the capacity to use the full spectrum of attributes passion provides. Most Red-hot Lovers focus their passion on obtaining some particular knowledge or expertise. Usually, they gravitate to one of the six passions: heartbreak, challenge, pursuit, gallantry, vindication or attention. Unusually, Trump…
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It is an 1893 John Waterhouse painting entitled ‘La Belle Dame Sans Merci’ or ‘The Beautiful Lady without Mercy’. The title is the same as an 1819 John Keats poem: a ballad, a type of poem revived by the romantics from the medieval genre. The lady is seen as powerfully destructive to the knight because she’s beautiful, fascinating and unattainable. She appears to have supernatural abilities. At the same time, the knight is vulnerable to her because of his state of mind and the fact that he falls hopelessly in love with her. As he wakes up from his dream and has to reckon with the fact that she’s gone, he feels like he’s dying. This poem is consistent with the themes of medieval courtly love. The lady-love was meant to be physically unavailable and the knight would properly respond with lovesickness. In The Six Passions of the Red-hot Lover,…
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Marrying your best friend romantic partner can be a wonderfully validating and rewarding experience. It has the potential to give you someone who is always there for you no matter what. The intimacy can be amazing. If a couple is lacking the closeness of a best friend relationship, they probably need to work on liking each other more. Perhaps they can figure out what they have in common, how they can spend more time together and what new subjects they can discuss. In other words, do what friends do. In my experience, the way married best friends are most likely to go wrong is in defaulting to be just best friends. When they get overloaded with the stress and complexity of married or family life, they tend to let the romantic, passionate and sexual parts of their relationship go. They seem to believe they can just pick up where they…
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Wendy Brown was interviewed for the askmen article ‘How to avoid Replacement’. Read the article here.
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I’ve noticed that more and more women are becoming practical about the realities of love and marriage. If they want to be married and have children, they need to do more than just marry in time to accommodate their biological clocks. They also need men who can share the child care priorities and responsibilities. This requires the couple to be able to talk, discuss and negotiate as friends. There appears to be less risk of divorce, or at least ugly expensive divorce, between people who value each other’s friendship and plan to co-parent. With or without children in the picture, marriage is a big deal because of its social, legal and financial implications. It’s generally smarter and safer to tie yourself to someone who is your lover and your best friend.
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