The Six Passions of the Red-Hot Lover

By Wendy Brown, Clinical Member, Ontario Society of Psychotherapists

Mind games in dating

By Wendy Brown July 4, 2017 Advice, Discussion No Comments

Playing mind games with your love interest can be very risky. Let’s suppose you’re playing hard to get. This is a classic game in which the Prince/Princess is presenting a challenge to see if the potential lover will try to prove his/her mettle and show his/her devotion. If he/she makes the grade, then the Prince/Princess might feel safe enough to open up to a love relationship; in other words, come down off of his/her pedestal and be vulnerable. Note that the Prince/Princess is initially taking the upper hand in the game with the assumption that he/she will always have a slight edge of power. After all, if things went badly in the future, he/she could again retreat to the pedestal. This might attract a lover who has a problem with being in the lower position, having to measure up, possibly facing rejection. This individual could be vindictive and play the…

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