Specifically: Do you find that you don’t exactly feel faithful? It’s possible to understand the whole concept of monogamy and agree to it, but not fully feel it. People describe this phenomenon as feeling like they have a chip missing. They simply don’t get it deep down. Arguably, there’s nothing missing or wrong with individuals who don’t feel completely faithful. It’s just another way to be. But, if their 100% monogamous partners find out about this, they will typically be outraged, devastated and condemnatory. For them, there’s something seriously wrong when fidelity does not compute. That’s because it puts them at risk. And they question what is wrong with them; they ask if they’re not enough. The issue, however, doesn’t revolve around the partner or the quality of the love in the relationship. It revolves around the person whose loving feelings don’t completely centralize and focus. Instead, their feelings wander…
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Wendy Brown was interviewed for an article in S.O.S Mujer (Woman). Read the article here.
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What are the possible causes of having no desire to have sex with a partner? In my experience, there are many possible causes of having no desire to have sex with a partner. A person could have a physical problem, like untreated reduced thyroid function. Or, someone could be experiencing high levels of anxiety and having panic attacks. Another individual might be undergoing a lot of stress, or having difficulty adjusting to change. Then, it’s also possible that somebody has never had much sexual desire and what they had has gradually fizzled out. But, often enough, there is no easy or obvious explanation for having no desire to have sex with a partner when you look at just the individual with that problem. To understand what’s going on, you need to figure out how the relationship is going with the partner. It is very, very common to have a person…
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Being a Red-hot Lover is quite a distinction. It means you could be one of the greatest lovers the world has ever known. Elizabeth Taylor and Richard Burton were true Red-hot Lovers. They had the virility, the obsession, the jealousy and the pain. Liz and Dick were both married to other people when their scandalous love affair started. They received criticism from the Vatican, the US Senate and Ed Sullivan. Sixteen months after their divorce, Dick was quoted to say ‘You can’t keep clapping a couple of sticks [of dynamite] together without expecting them to blow up.’ Whatever you think of the wild rollercoaster ride they took together, they had Red-hot Love in spades. Of course, there are happy endings with Red-hot Love. Vivian Ward (Jessica Roberts) and Edward Lewis (Richard Gere) were Red-hot Lovers in the movie Pretty Woman. As the picture proceeds, it becomes less and less relevant…
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Firstly, we need to define Red-hot Love: Romance that’s full of passion, drama, intensity and lovesickness. We need to thank the courtly lovers of the Middle Ages for Red-hot Love: Without them we might not have drama kings and queens, princes and princesses and a lot of the high maintenance lovers of the world. We may have missed out entirely on the knight in shining armor rescuing the poor fellow or the damsel in distress with his/her love. We could be lacking the exquisitely sensitive, heartbreakingly appealing gentle lover who stumbles and falls in matters of love. It’s possible that we wouldn’t have developed the ever popular game of playing hard to get. And where would we be if they hadn’t developed lovesickness into a prescribed ritual? Arguably, we may not even have Ashley Madison if it wasn’t for the courtly lovers. For all of their Courts of Love, Laws…
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