The Six Passions of the Red-Hot Lover

This is no simple wish.

By Wendy Brown March 24, 2015 Articles No Comments

I’ve heard that you can make a wish and it just might come true. Well, I’ve spent a long time preparing this wish. As I put it out there in the universe, I know it will take its place along with all the other wishes. That’s OK. All I ask for is its place in the sun where it can live or die on its own merit.  I wish you love.  Now, you need to bear in mind that this is no simple wish. For you to have love, you need to be able to recognize it, appreciate it and hold onto it. You have to let go of your view that you can make-believe about love. That’s because you need your heart and mind to be clear. Ultimately, you have to hone your senses sufficiently that you can maintain something of a hub of confidence when it comes to…

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Even more questionable dating advice

By Wendy Brown March 18, 2015 Advice No Comments

If you don’t love yourself, don’t expect a man to love you. The thinking here probably is: Women who have love relationships must love themselves. You’ll be better off with more positive self-esteem than you have right now. Who wouldn’t be? Being self-critical allows you to get into a relationship wherein the man is hard on you and you don’t stop him; it could appear as though he doesn’t love you. You’re walking around feeling ‘I’m just not good enough.’ Men are picking up this message and agreeing with you; that’s why you’re not being asked out. If you don’t end up with a man who loves you, it’s your own fault; you failed at loving yourself to a sufficient extent. You’re being criticized for being self-critical. The potential fallout from following this advice is: You develop a flawed view of women who are in love relationships; perceiving all of…

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