Yes, but you’re really setting yourself up for a challenge. Tinder seems to be set up as the devil’s advocate of deep, meaningful relationships. You have just a little information on your prospective hookup or date and some photos. But, then again you don’t have much to go on if you meet someone at a club or a coffee shop. What you need to be able to accomplish is no easy feat: Engage a person in such a way that you can tell if there’s potential for a real connection. Inspire him/her to want to get to know you deep down. And have the opportunity to make it all happen. By the way, that probably means no sex for three to six dates. If you’re looking for resonance with your inner self, you need to be unclouded emotionally. You have to connect with your gut. Sex is a big distraction…
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Jackie Bouvier Kennedy had a fairy-tale life in many ways, but not all. Her father, Black Jack Bouvier, taught her how to command attention as a poised, enigmatic and beautiful woman. Her mother taught her to marry wealthy men and approved of Senator John F Kennedy. Her father was supposed to walk her down the aisle at her wedding, but instead he was at home naked, drunk and asleep. Jackie was envied by women such as Grace Kelly and Audrey Hepburn, who vied for the role of future First Lady married to the young and gorgeous Presidential hopeful. Jackie scored when it came to her social standing, but she believed she was married to the world’s worst husband. On their honeymoon, Jack told her he had prostatitis, gonorrhea and chlamydia; none of which could be cured due to his Addison’s disease. Jack’s childhood gay friend, Lem Billings, was ever-present to give…
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Think of the scandal caused by Liz and Dick. It focused on Liz who had been married four times before the age of 30; she was currently married to Eddie Fisher who she stole from Debbie Reynolds. Not that long prior, the tabloids were putting out statements like this: ‘Liz Blood Thirsty Widow Vampires Eddy.’ Eddie was right there working with Liz during the filming of Cleopatra. Dick was married to Sybil Williams who was accustomed to his cheating. He had another woman, a Copacabana dancer, who would show up on the set of Cleopatra. And in the middle of all of that, Liz and Dick fell in love and started up an affair. Remember that Cleopatra was filmed in the early 1960’s in Rome. The affair between Liz and Dick was not only public it was also a top story. Because they were situated in Rome, the Vatican got…
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But, we had a great connection and really strong chemistry. Our first date was just so much fun. Why didn’t I hear from him again? The fact that this man is a known player is very important. It means that in general for some reason he has chosen not to open up that much in romantic and passionate situations. Instead, he has opted to remain in a position of control, to protect himself. It’s hard to know exactly what he has chosen to hold back and why; this is very individual and may be quite idiosyncratic. Whatever is missing or well guarded is his area of insecurity. It could be that he’s fascinated by women whose behavior makes no sense and whenever he’s tried to get close to someone like that, he’s been massively hurt. Perhaps he’s got a long history of being/feeling neglected by the kind of person he’d like to…
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Often enough one person wants a friendship with benefits as a means of safely, conveniently and comfortably having a sexual relationship. That individual is completely clear that he/she is not in love and will not be falling in love with the friend. But then the friend has other ideas. The friend wants a romantic and passionate relationship and hopes to transition the friends with benefits arrangement into just that. However, this needs to be something of a secret, to avoid creating a potentially unworkable and hopeless situation. The person who really wants the friends with benefits arrangement is probably actively seeking someone else who is relationship material. It should be fine to let the current friend know exactly that. But given what’s going on within him/her, it is devastating. It feels insulting, disappointing and hurtful. The message may very well come across as equivalent to saying the friend is simply not good enough and…
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